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Re: I feel unsure about disclosing my neurodiversity on job applications
I literally know exactly how you feel x1000
Yoy decide and it may be you disclose at different stagrx depending on the role. I sometimes right from start on the application form , others before interview or others after.
So true! We are not a tick box !! I got emoloyeed by a place seemed lije yes, supporting at first had a 121 meeting abd plan out in place for start but then afterwards when it cane to a issue or even the tiniest things I was pulled right down, even if I'd already mentioned it. Ie: was 5min late due to disability, needing information, or just easily altered duties " we can't do that, you do what we say" "why you late for " "oh well thst need of yours is a peoblem then"
After a year I left!! I couldn't out up with it and now glad to found somewhere genuinely supportive!! There will be a place. Remember its important your valued abs supported if your not, they're not worth you!!
Yoy decide and it may be you disclose at different stagrx depending on the role. I sometimes right from start on the application form , others before interview or others after.
So true! We are not a tick box !! I got emoloyeed by a place seemed lije yes, supporting at first had a 121 meeting abd plan out in place for start but then afterwards when it cane to a issue or even the tiniest things I was pulled right down, even if I'd already mentioned it. Ie: was 5min late due to disability, needing information, or just easily altered duties " we can't do that, you do what we say" "why you late for " "oh well thst need of yours is a peoblem then"
After a year I left!! I couldn't out up with it and now glad to found somewhere genuinely supportive!! There will be a place. Remember its important your valued abs supported if your not, they're not worth you!!
Re: My journey in reconnecting with my real family
Just echoing @amy22 's words,
It's so nice to hear that despite how scared you were that you pushed yourself and reconnected with your family and it's great to hear that you got support with reaching out to them. We're all super proud of you its so lovely that you're sharing your journey with us here
It's so nice to hear that despite how scared you were that you pushed yourself and reconnected with your family and it's great to hear that you got support with reaching out to them. We're all super proud of you its so lovely that you're sharing your journey with us here
Re: Is it to late for me to make friends?
I know exactly how you feel with friends I struggle to make friends as I have autisum but I started a new club which is grace house about 2 year ago and made friends just by being a youth worker and joining in with youth and go out to the pictures do arts and crafts going to see shows I love it so you never to late to go out their and make new friends and start a club it’s the best thing you make new friends and loads of new places and adventures
Re: When the main reason that makes men think you’re ugly is the ✨fucking weather✨ 🙃
No matter what you look like or say some people are just nasty just be your self don’t let it defeat you your beutiful in your own way
Re: (TW: mentions of rape) I’m terrified for my mums life
so sry to hear this the system is letting the wrong ppl out of prison. from a girl myself i would recommend if your going outside take someone with you also if your going out at night and noone is with you make sure to stay where theres traffic and make sure to stay where theres light bc ppl will be around. if you find yourself in a situation where you feel unsafe pls call 999 or go to a shop or approach someone and explain bc your safety is priority. im here for you 🩷
eylah
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Re: When the main reason that makes men think you’re ugly is the ✨fucking weather✨ 🙃
everyone is beautiful in their own ways that includes you. by sounds of it those guys are very immature. dont let them put you down bc your beautiful inside and out. 🩷
eylah
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Re: When the main reason that makes men think you’re ugly is the ✨fucking weather✨ 🙃
Your pretty no matter the lighting or when inside
River
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Re: (TW: suicidal thoughts, self-loathing) not being able to find love makes me want to kill myself
Wanted to say it's lovely to read this discussion. I can tell those feelings of self-loathing are so intense for you @bignosegirly0 and I think it's cool that you're confronting them.
I agree with everything @Faolan said. It's really positive that you decided to step away from the incel/femcel forums. It would have been easy to stay and to stew in that environment (like so many do), so for what it's worth: well done for choosing to leave those spaces. Finding your way to a community like this one is a step in the right direction.
Have you ever had or considered having therapy? What you're posting about sounds like the kind of thing that a psychotherapist would be good at unpicking with you, particularly as it seems to relate to trauma and some deep rooted childhood stuff.
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Putting my moderator hat on for a sec, I made a couple of edits to your main post. I added a trigger warning to the title and body of the post, then I wrapped the ranty part in a spoiler just because it's quite intense reading and I didn't want folks just stumbling on it.
I agree with everything @Faolan said. It's really positive that you decided to step away from the incel/femcel forums. It would have been easy to stay and to stew in that environment (like so many do), so for what it's worth: well done for choosing to leave those spaces. Finding your way to a community like this one is a step in the right direction.
Have you ever had or considered having therapy? What you're posting about sounds like the kind of thing that a psychotherapist would be good at unpicking with you, particularly as it seems to relate to trauma and some deep rooted childhood stuff.
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Putting my moderator hat on for a sec, I made a couple of edits to your main post. I added a trigger warning to the title and body of the post, then I wrapped the ranty part in a spoiler just because it's quite intense reading and I didn't want folks just stumbling on it.
JustV
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Re: 🛡️ Our new Confidentiality Policy (explained)
In answer to this: yes, that's correct - this only applies to things shared post-merger.
There are a couple of reasons for that. 1) there's simply no way we could go through old posts, and 2) the information and risk level in old posts would likely be out of date.
When we're conducting risk assessments, we need the information we're going off to be new and current in order for that to be a useful process for the person involved.
JustV
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Re: (TW: suicidal thoughts, self-loathing) not being able to find love makes me want to kill myself
Sheesh, ya incel & femcel communities can be really harsh sometimes. I guess they’re just full of people who are deeply hurt and desperate to show that in someways.
It must’ve felt nice to find someone to relate to but I do think they’re best to avoid. They seem really toxic and almost brain washing in a way. I’m glad you don’t use them anymore, sure for your own mind. You don’t need to read that crap.
I know this post is about feeling frustrated with trying to find love, I feel like now a days people tend to use dating apps to find people they like / who like them. Have you ever tried that?
I do hear your frustrations and I’m really sorry you’ve been made to feel this way. You didn’t deserve any of this. No one should be left feeling so horrible about themselves.
For what it’s worth, I’m glad you’re alive . I do believe you’ll find your way out of this darkness
It must’ve felt nice to find someone to relate to but I do think they’re best to avoid. They seem really toxic and almost brain washing in a way. I’m glad you don’t use them anymore, sure for your own mind. You don’t need to read that crap.
I know this post is about feeling frustrated with trying to find love, I feel like now a days people tend to use dating apps to find people they like / who like them. Have you ever tried that?
I do hear your frustrations and I’m really sorry you’ve been made to feel this way. You didn’t deserve any of this. No one should be left feeling so horrible about themselves.
For what it’s worth, I’m glad you’re alive . I do believe you’ll find your way out of this darkness
Faolan
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